Hello lovely friends/followers of Allisons! Soooo I have been house sitting this past week for Allison while she and the fam were in Chicago vacationing...and as always... a treat to house sit for the Daytons! :) In the windowsill above her kitchen sink she has a Mary Engelbreit calender. As I was tearing the days off, this was the first one I pulled....
It had me thinking..... How often are we deciding on our own to be happy when we aren't always experiencing the happiest, funniest, brightest, etc. days? Something to think about right? I think I have been very lucky to find friends who for the most part are always in good moods.... and then I have friends who always seem to see the glass half empty and complain about soooooo many things!
That is soooo exhausting... :(
and I ALWAYS find myself thinking... i'd rather be by myself right now. Now of course we can't always be happy 100% - we are not perfect... but we can master being positive even when things are hard. <- Yes I am sure one can argue this and totally disagree, but it is about our choice of how we handle things.
No matter what... you can ALWAYS find something to complain about. Why settle for that attitude... that poor sport behavior? Now, I am not saying go and be a robot, don't show your emotions, don't be sad, don't cry...<- believe me, I am not saying that... because if you knew me well, you would know that I wear my emotions on my sleeve, what you see is what you get.
I guess where all this is coming from is from the conversation I had the other day with one of my best friends who was visiting. She was telling me about one of
her best friends and how she doesn't handle things in life too well... anything bad that comes up, she either gets really depressed or reverts back to her anorexic habits. Well, my best friend heard some information about her best friends boyfriend that would upset her if she found out and is torn because she wants to say something but knows that if she does that this best friend of hers will get severely depressed. Man! Just hearing that made me depressed. I can't imagine if I had friends that felt that way about me, always too afraid to tell me what is going on for fear of how I will act. Not a healthy way to live. One of the things that makes my best friends my TRUEST bestest friends [shout out to you Robert, Ken, & Sarah H. Hye Jung & Annie B.] is that they will and have told me things about myself that have sometimes been hard to swallow...but you know what, I can look back at myself 2,3,4,5 years from now and see how much better of a person I am because of them! They have my back! I studied fashion design at Parsons School of Design in New York City, and every week we would have critiques of each others work. The classmates who actually critiqued my work are the ones who I admire to this day... My designs got better over time, where as the ones who were either too scared, insecure or just plain jealous to say anything really frustrated me, and they were also the ones where if I critiqued their work they took major offense! Seriously?! Aren't we here to help each other grow? I mean we paid $34,000 a year to be there! Crazy stuff! It is the same in our every day lives! Aren't we here to build one another up, to help each other grow, even if that means telling each other things that are hard to hear but in defense of being a better person? YES! And one of the best ways of doing that is by excepting the difficulties, the challenges, the insecurities and facing them one at a time, and one day at a time!
So I guess what I am trying to say is, that really we have no time for bad attitudes... we don't have time to entertain that poor sport mentality in us that sometimes tries soooo hard to break out! Tell him or her to get lost! All we have time for is to be as happy as possible! And to help spread that happiness all around. If you come across people who want to bring you down, move on! Let them deal with their pain on their own, when they are ready to be happy and positive, let them come up to you but don't go down to their level.....
At the end of the day, we want to be like this cute lil old man! :-[) lol
And lastly, another fabulous quote from Oscar Wilde on Allison's Mary Engelbreit calendar.
Now go have an awesome day! And as a token of my happiness, I want to share one of my favorite songs with you that puts me in thee BEST mood ever!
EMPIRE OF THE SUN Get ready to dance my friends!!! xo
